Five reflections for World Breastfeeding Week

You know I always find #worldbreastfeedingweek an interesting one. I enjoy seeing the celebration of breastfeeding (especially in a country with such low rates), but I also see how many people are triggered by the breastfeeding conversation and I can feel the sadness and shame attached to it. My own feeding experiences couldn’t have been more different.

First time around I knew nothing. I was naively hopeful that breastfeeding would be a natural and uncomplicated rite of passage. I didn’t understand anything about normal newborn behaviour, nor had I set up any support for my onward journey, so unsurprisingly, it was pretty crap. I resentfully fed for a few months – crying through each feed and not enjoying the regular opportunities for bonding until we switched to bottles. I felt guilty and inadequate because my reality didn’t align with my expectations, but at least the huge physical and emotional strain had been taken out of the equation and I could actually just relax into motherhood and love my baby without the constant underlying dread of having to feed him.

Second time around things felt different. I took a proper class with a lactation consultant and knew where to go for support postnatally, too. As such, feeding Cosmo proved transformative. We had a tricky start but with time and external support, we both became more relaxed and confident. My biggest fear turned into my greatest achievement and I happily breastfed for 17 months.

So what have I learned? 1) I couldn’t have done it on my own – I genuinely think breastfeeding is an experience that requires lots of layers of support and understanding. 2) Patience and learning are key – it’s new to you and your baby and a skill you’re acquiring together. 3) It can be a really joyful and empowering experience, but it also isn’t the be-all/end-all of parenting. 4) A happy, relaxed mother is the most important part of this equation, and making informed decisions when you feel educated, respected and supported will always lead to the best choices for you and your baby. 5) Your experience is valid and each journey will be as unique as the souls involved.

If you’d like support on your breastfeeding journey, check out our affirmation cards specifically designed for encouragement on your feeding journey.